Brigham Young University found that lacking social connections is as unhealthy as being an alcoholic or smoking 15 cigarettes a day. So go ahead and binge watch that Netflix show alone again- it is literally killing you and countless others. And the number of people who feel lonely is staggering, up to 43% of people feel lonely and his research found, “if you use social networking as a way to promote face-to-face conversation, it lowers loneliness. But if you use it as a destination, as a replacement for the face-to-face, it increases loneliness.” I kid you not, they are researching a steroid that they can start prescribing to people who feel lonely to stave off the symptoms of loneliness because you can’t take a pill for connection.
And that’s what I’m going to talk about today. Loneliness affects a lot of young people because we are so wired technologically that we forget that we need face to face interaction. We don’t just forget that we need it we forget how to make friends, how to have a conversation, how to hang out with our friends or family and if you are a more senior member of our church, you might be battling loneliness not because you are gaming online all day but because it’s harder physically to get out and as more of your friends pass away or move away, you have fewer and fewer people to see.
So if loneliness is killing us, what do we do about it? What’s God’s advice? I’m so glad you asked. We were made in the image of a God who has always and eternally been relational. There was never a time when it was not Father, Son and Holy Spirit- all three have always existed in the deep and powerful relationship. When God realized we were disconnected from Him, he didn’t tweet out the gospel, he didn’t Facebook post the good news that we were loved- no, he sent Jesus in the flesh to live and breathe and walk among us. In John chapter one we read that the word became flesh and dwelt among us, but in Greek the word here is sklerew which means to pitch tent- God came to pitch tent- to camp with the lowly humans because that my friends was the way to reconnection and salvation. And if we are lonely or feeling out of place or isolated the worst thing to do is stay locked up in our homes and hearts and not get out there and be vulnerable with others- get to know them. True transformation and healing absolutely cannot and will not happen in a vacuum, it will not happen without community. Look at the story in Luke 24:13 of what happened to two followers of Jesus after the crucifixion. Times were dark, they weren’t sure if Jesus was alive and they could have stayed home alone, hiding under their covers in the dark but they starting walking on the road to Emmaus and as they were out, talking and processing what the women had said about the resurrection, Jesus shows up and walks with them and they spend all day talking and at dinner, when Jesus sits down to eat with them, they recognize who he is and everything changes. When was the last time you sat down to eat a meal with someone with no cell phones on the table and no interruptions? And you sat down to talk about life, about your struggles, about your successes, about your hopes and dreams for the future? Psalm 133 is one of our shortest Psalms and it says, “How very good and pleasant it is when kindred live together in unity! It is like the precious oil on the head, running down upon the beard,
on the beard of Aaron,
running down over the collar of his robes.
3 It is like the dew of Hermon,
which falls on the mountains of Zion.
For there the Lord ordained his blessing,
When we live together in unity it’s like precious oil that just covers you from head to toe, it’s like dew on the mountainside, an eternal blessing from the Lord. But we aren’t living together in unity. Brene brown, my girl, just came out with a new book where she shares that we are more polarized than ever because we want to live surrounded by people who look, think and act like us but we aren’t trying to live in peace and unity with people who see things differently than we do. She shares data from a guy named Bill Bishop who said that in 1976, less than 25% of Americans lived in places where the presidential election was a landslide so we were surrounded by people who thought and felt differently than us but in the 2016 election 80% of counties gave a landslide victory to Trump or Hillary so we are starting to surround ourselves with people who think, look and act like us which is why Facebook stresses us out so much because sometimes it’s the only time that we hear a different viewpoint than our own. But we need each other, we need the thoughts and opinions and challenges of others to figure out where we truly stand on things and what GOD wants for us. And church should and can be that safe space for you because this is a diverse community- we have young and old, democrat and republican, card-carrying ACLU-ers and NRA-ers, men, women, gay, straight, homeless, millionaires, all here in one community and we need each other but if you don’t show up you miss out.
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25